What should I look for in a residential program?
Obviously what will best meet the needs of your child, but also in alignment with your family values. Find out what involvement you can have as a parent. The downward spiral of your teen has taken a toll on your entire family. Find out what kind of parent education, involvement and support they offer. Your teen will be making personal changes and have opportunities for growth and development. You will want to progress and learn along with them so that you’re prepared and able to be the best support possible when they return home. A solid residential school or program will also have alumni parents you can communicate with prior to placement who will be able to share their own perspective and experiences. Take a tour of the facility and meet the staff and students.
Updated: Given the downturn in our economy over the last several of years, we have also been stressing...tuition. We have been very active in securing the most realistically affordable Boarding School tuition for our families. We certainly want to see the teen as well as the family as a whole complete the Boarding School process, from start to finish. This can certainly be hindered if families commit to a higher tuition than they can afford because they have not done their homework.
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Typically, what kind of teen would benefit from a Residential Boarding School?
They are good kids, with good hearts who have gotten off track and are headed in a self-destructive direction. Teens doing poorly in their academics, teens exhibiting risky behavior, and have rebellious and defiant attitudes towards their parents and authority figures. They suffer from low self-esteem and lack motivation. Parents have become alarmed at their choice of friends, depression, and have withdrawn from family participation, plummeting grades, poor attitude, and use of alcohol or drugs. Their mastery at manipulation makes it virtually impossible for parents to alter their perilous behavior without the intervention of outside resources.
What indicators should be considered?
Parents with increasing concerns about their teen’s poor choices and risky behavior want solutions that will turn things around before it’s too late. One primary indicator is they have fallen behind in their grades and are in danger of not graduating high school. Placement within the safe, structured environment of a Boarding School, the distractions and poor influences are removed and replaced with positive peer influence, healthy activities, and leadership opportunities. Boarding Schools offer accredited, accelerated academic programs customized for each student so that they can catch up in their studies and get back on track towards high school graduation.
Are there loans or scholarships available?
Yes. Some schools offer in-house loan funding. A list of loan companies can also be provided that parents can work with directly. Some schools also offer scholarship tuition for families who establish legitimate financial hardship. All scholarship applications are reviewed by those individual schools that have scholarships available and are granted on a case-by-case basis at the sole discretion of that school and based on availability of funds. Please note that parents are responsible for their own loan and scholarship application paperwork.
What if my teen does not want to go?
We can help put you in contact with several qualified, experienced and licensed Interventionists who can safely work with and guide your teen to their residential boarding school.
What is the length of stay?
Be realistic with your expectations. A quick fix (2-6 weeks) will not equate to lasting change. Keep in mind that your teen’s self-destructive behavior did not get to that point quickly, so don’t expect it to miraculously correct. Human nature does not work that way. Self-directed and self-motivated change will take time to develop. They will make progress and good choices as they evolve through the levels of the program structure, earn trust, privileges and responsibilities. Give them the time needed to internalize their changes so that when they do return home they make good choices for themselves because they want to, not because they have to. Team with their staff, and be open to their coaching and direction. They work closely with your teen and will have valuable insight regarding the progress your teen is making. Be prepared for at least 6 - 18 months, each situation and program format obviously will always vary.